Why did God let this happen – Why God Why?

Life is difficult sometimes. There are hard times and painful experiences that can leave us confused and bewildered. Many times we find ourselves struggling to comprehend and cope with what is taking place in this merry-go-round we call life. Even in the midst of enduring and coping during hardship and pain, we can open doors to ministers to others who are in need, sharing the love of God. I have heard many people say “Why did God do this to me”, or cry out, “God, this isn’t fair”. As we endure painful experiences there are no easy answers. Many times life does not seem fair. In the middle of heartache that life brings our way we can put our trust in Him, and discover wondrous opportunities to share the love of Christ with others. The world around us will watch how we, as believers endure our hardships, and our lives can become living testaments to our faith. Watching friends, co-workers and family members go through painful situations will offer up opportunities to interact with them in support, opening the door for the love of Christ to be shared.

I have friends who have had spouses and children die and I have had the question presented to me, “Why did God let this happen”? There are not many questions in life harder to address than discussing the loss of a loved one, and enduring the heartache that ensues. I have friends who have had loses in their lives, and I could see and feel the pain they were going through. They were hurt, despondent and looking for answers. When the question “Why did God let this happen” is asked of me sometimes it is very hard to give an answer that will comfort their wounded hearts.

Many times we ask Why, God-Why? We struggle for answers to understand the situation and we turn to God’s word to try to find answers to our own questions. Reading the scriptures, we find numerous occasions where men such as David and Job endured loss of loved ones and endured tragic situations and we can see the hand of God working even in the midst of death. Anyone has endured heartache, tragedy and grief has asked questions like these. The problem is that many times they are not always answerable with perfect clarity or reason. Many things are secrets in the mind of God and therefore mysteries to us.

As we look for answers to understand our pain or the pain of others, we will find that there is no stock answer. As we endure heartache and tragedy God’s love in Christ Jesus is ever the more poured out upon us and in us to strengthen us, giving us the strength to go on.

We read in 2 Corinthians 12:9 that our weakness, and in our pain the power of the living God rests upon us. In our weakness, the strength of the grace of the Lord is manifested in us, even more. In the midst of our despair, we are fully conscious of being weak, broken, feeble, and in need of His strength. It is during these times, when we are desperately in need of His aid that Jesus manifests his power of grace in our lives – to strengthen us, to uphold us , to impart to us His divine comfort. We are best where we are weak, because it is in our weakness we allow Christ to take over, be the center of strength in our lives. We connect with God when we are weak because in our weakness we are able to completely surrender our will to our Redeemer, as His grace supplies our every need. We are held in the palms of His hand nurtured in His love, caressed by His mercy.

Many times good can come out of the very worst of situations. Dealing with the death of a loved one is hard and difficult to understand, but God’s word tells us that life’s brightest moments can sometimes be found in the middle of our darkest hours. The death of Jesus Christ our Lord teaches us this very truth. As Jesus died a seemingly tragic death on a cross on Golgotha, the best thing that ever happened to all of humanity came from the worst thing that ever happened. What could be worse than the killing of the living Son of God? What could be more unjust and unfair than the torture and execution of a man who had never even committed a sin, much less a crime? What could be more unjust and unfair than killing the only perfect man who ever lived? I am sure as Jesus died on that day, the disciples were shocked and bewildered by what they had just witnessed and asked the very same question, “Why did God let this happen”?

What they did not understand then, even as we many times do not ourselves now, is that this terrible tragedy was completely under God’s control. As Jesus died upon the cross sin and death were defeated, in His seemingly weakest hour, the strength of God was made manifest as redemption was poured out upon all humanity. In that weakness and pain and suffering that Jesus endured, the power of the living God rested upon the world bring salvation and restoration to all.

In the same way, Jesus can give us joy and happiness in our lives even when we feel we are in broken beyond repair. We can find wonderful things out of even the darkest moments of our lives. Our Lord is present with us when it is the very darkness. He has planned that even the darkest of situations that we face will result in redemptive good for us. He surrendered His very own Son to death so that we could have life. He does not abandon us. He does not leave us. He does not forsake us. He is always standing by with love and compassion – to hold us, heal our wounds, and comfort our hearts.

We read in Isaiah 63:1 that the children of God that mourn will be given beauty for ashes. What God is saying here is a beautiful thing. Christ gives mourners the beautiful gift of salvation, wrapped in his righteousness, by the grace of his Spirit. He fills our hearts with His gracious presence, giving us joy, peace, and comfort. This beauty for ashes is not natural thing that any one of us could acquire of ourselves, but is of grace; not acquired, but given. It is not fictitious, but it is real, perfect and complete, and bestowed upon us by Christ himself who gives it to all of us freely.

Facing the death of a loved one, or a tragedy in our lives is very difficult, but we must be reminded that we are not alone. Jesus endured death for us so that even in the face of death we would be able to live with hope, strength, and courage. And because of what Jesus has done for all of us good things can happen even in our darkest moments of life. We cannot let grief rob us of the beautiful life that God has planned for us. We can choose to live and experience and receive the wonderful grace that Jesus died to give us. As we learn to lean on the everlasting arms of God and let Him bear our sorrow and pain, we will find beauty for ashes, strength for fear, and joy for our sadness.

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16 replies

  1. Read Epistle of James, hope you can find an answer.

  2. Thanks for the link, Darrell. Great words of encouragement.

  3. “…We cannot let grief rob us of the beautiful life that God has planned for us…”

    This is a profound statement. I like it.

  4. Beautiful, when we mourn GOD will give us beauty for ashes. Love the verse.
    Thanks for another lovely message Darrell.
    Blessings to you and yours.

  5. Why God? A very tough question with no easy answers. Thanks for a good post on this issue!

    I have nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award.
    For details see my post here,

  6. thank God for this site..Thanks Darrell.

  7. Darrell, you have a great gift. You write very understandingly and compassionately. God has truly blessed you

  8. Thanks for a wonderful words, I am going through the same situation asking GOd why God why?!! my 21 year old son died 4 months ago, he drowned in the sea while playing (my son his cousin& one of cousins freind) on 30th may 2012. 2 years ago my mom died as she was active one month sickness made her die what was the cause doctors could not detect???

    Now I am afraid of life what is tommorow???!!! I am weeping 24/7…please pray for me..

    • I will be praying for you Cecil…remember to learn to lean on the everlasting arms of God and let Him bear your sorrow and pain, I pray you will find beauty for ashes, strength for fear, and joy for your sadness. Blessings Darrell


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