Forgiveness – Bible Verses – Lessons Learned – Self-Righteous

Forgiveness Christ one another Colossians 3 13

Edna . . . it was over 30 years ago when I had first met Edna.

Edna was this little old widow that used to go to the church where I was the youth pastor. She was a frisky little old lady with a lot of faith and a lot of energy, and she used to pray for everyone. She carried around this old tattered handkerchief and she would shake it as she prayed. If she was praying for their headache she would shake it by their head. If she was praying for a hurt foot, she would shake it by their foot. I watched her for about 3 months after I went to work at the church, and her hanky seemed to annoy me for some reason. I was young, lacking wisdom and . . . well let’s just say I was young and lacking wisdom. I walked over to Edna and I said something like, “Sister Edna why in the world do you keep shaking that nasty looking old hanky on people, it looks ridiculous”. Taken back, she stood up on her tippy toes, got her nose about one inch from mine and with a tone of anger in her voice said, ”You foolish, foolish young man, don’t you know that there is power and healing through this handkerchief”. And she then turned and whipped away from me. I was trying to follow after her so I could explain theology and doctrine concerning prayer and handkerchiefs to her with my self-impressed bright 20 something mind, when her granddaughter took my arm and pulled me aside.

Her granddaughter explained that Edna was completely deaf well into her teens; she had never heard any sound. Her mother had taken her to a meeting of Aimee Semple McPherson, and they stood in a line for an hour and a half waiting to be prayed for. When Aimee prayed for Edna she had the handkerchief in her palms while she had held Edna’s ears in her hands, and when she said be healed in the name of Jesus, Edna heard the first sounds that she had ever heard. Aimee Semple McPherson asked her can you hear me Edna, she shook her head yes. Aimee, mother and Edna wept, and Aimee handed her the handkerchief and said “keep this always as a reminder of the Lord’s healing power and your faith”. She went on to explain to me that for 60 years Edna has cared for that handkerchief and always used it in prayer for others that God would do for them what He had done for her. She always took special care of it and only took it out to pray for others. Because of her always shaking it, the hem at the edge had come out giving it the tattered look. I was informed that it was her most prized possession. I remembered somehow feeling justified by what I had told Edna, because somehow I felt I could scripturally back it up. Edna never would speak to me after that and avoided contact with me at all cost. The Lord taught me a valuable lesson that has stayed with me all my life. Even while writing this today, I do so with tears falling from my eyes as many lessons are hard learned, and the effects of which we carry for life. It’s too late now but this is one situation on which I wish I had a ”do-over”.

Many times we take our “faith” way too serious. I think many of us (including myself especially) are getting a little too spiritually haughty where we can’t even see others viewpoints without acting all sideways and offended. Those among us who are mature in the Lord need always to take the higher ground and not project our personal thoughts and values over that of other believers less mature than ourselves. We should listen and in maturity teach and guide without offending and spitting out 200 verses to prove the other person wrong. After all they are just trying to seek and find Him too.

The Lord spoke to me and taught me that it does not matter if we are always “scripturally correct”. It does not matter if we can always prove our “point” in the scripture, as long as we are always right . . . WRONG. Edna has been gone for many years now, but let me borrow Edna’s hanky and shake it over our ears so they may be opened and hear what the Lord is saying to his church. I see and hear every single day in life Christian brothers and sisters spending way too much time arguing over unimportant pieces of doctrine and scripture trying to prove their point and prove  themselves right.

We say and do things that are hurtful, judgmental, self-righteous and that are morally and spiritually wrong. Yes I said morally. We are not to knowingly offend our brothers and sisters especially the babes in Christ. What does Jesus think about that?

He said in Matthew 18:6, But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.

I just learned a lesson over 30 years ago and learned to be careful, think first before I flippantly say something regarding the habits, actions or practices of another believer as not to offend. And if someone does something that offends you; stop take a second, let the Lord speak to your spirit, shake Edna’s imaginary hanky over your heart for healing and forgive. Because I believe that most of the mistakes we make as believers are simply that, just mistakes. Satan wants you to think otherwise. That’s why we get all “spiritual” and “self-righteous” if we feel threatened or offended. Don’t do it . . . Forgive innocent mistakes, even if they are your own. This is the way of Christ.

Colossians 3:13
Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Christ fogave Forgive Colossians 3 13

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33 replies

  1. Could you please pray for me…i need help with forgiveness.
    Thank you all.

  2. Wonderful, thank you for sharing such a great story. It is sad that we have to sometimes learn lessons the hard way, but these lessons seem to stick the best as well.

    Blessings to you Darrell

  3. I love stories like that. Thanks.

  4. Dear Darrell, once again your writings have touched my heart and left a lump in my throat. Most of us want to be “right” when it comes to proving our point and too many times there are consequences. (We end up not being good respresentatives of our Lord). Thank you Father for forgiving us ALL our trespasses. Blessings to you Darrell.

  5. I just read the article by Michael Cheshire – “Going To Hell with Ted Haggard – What I learned about grace and redemption through my friendship with a Christian pariah.” It moved me.

    That article and your blog entry above, reminded me again, that as much as I strive to run well this earthly race for my KING, I am not exempt from the enemy’s attack of hypocrisy. It is another reminder how vital it is to put on the Kings armor. A daily surrender…sometimes moment by moment. Thank you for your words of encouragement.


  6. I used to listen to RW Shambach on the radio. Later on he got involved with TBN and that turned off, but he told a story of people bring healing clothes, much like Paul did. One woman brought a bag of M&Ms. Shambach told her that was foolisness, but she insisted. Why he finally asked why it was because the relative was in a mental ward and this was the only thing they would let her bring in. Faith my brother, faith. I know you understand that now. God will use what ever he deems necessary.

  7. You are so right dear brother, it is all about faith. When we are young we think we know it all. As I grow older, I realize how little I really know, and to let God handle it as He knows better than me. Thanks so much for stopping by and taking the time to comment. Blessings Darrell

  8. What a blessing to have discovered your website Darrell. The pictures and scriptures are wonderful. I work with juveniles at a detention center and the scriptures, etc. will be most helpful. My daughter Tammy is a missionary in Nairobi and I have told her all about your website. God bless you and your family. Best website ever.

  9. I just got through your article on your experience with Edna, the forgiveness needed, and the lessons learned since. I, too, am as guilty of the same. When our Lord opened my eyes to my self-righteous, judgmental attitude in correcting such a one as Edna, I also, learned the same lesson. I have repented and asked that the those persons I have or may have offended or wounded would also forgive me. It has been a few years since learning to be more careful of my attitude and not be judgmental, but to just pray for that person.

    I am glad you wrote this article because the Holy Spirit has given me to know that one of the biggest sins of the church today, among the followers of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, is unforgiveness. When Jesus was dying on the cross he asked our Heavenly Father to “forgive them for they know not what they do.” It was so then and it is the same today, and tomorrow and forever. Without forgiveness there is no entrance to heaven. I hope more read this article. God bless you.

    • Thanks for stopping by Miulan, many lessons are hard learned, but the good thing is that we can learn. Grace makes up for where we fall short. Thanks for commenting, I hope to see you again. Blessings, In Christ Darrell

  10. While reading your story,i saw in my minds eye the old lady praying with the handkerchief. Your words illustrated the story beautifully. Thank you for the message. Blessings to you and yours!

  11. This is such a wonderful post, and this very week I have been thinking about the harsh words Christians can spew out at each other. It does seem we sometimes like to prove a point because we have Scripture to back it up. This very week was challenging because I was stunned to the core about the harsh insulting words another Christian lady spat out at me, and she doesn’t know me from a bar of soap. Her words wounded so much that I had to spend more than an hour in prayer for release and to grant her forgiveness. Thanks for sharing


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