1 Peter 4:12 Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you. No, Peter is not specifically speaking of marriage in this scripture, even though there are those in jest that would say that it is a perfect fit. All joking aside, marriage is a beautiful institution ordained by God for our pleasure, and in which we should experience joy and fullness of life.
It is important to a marriage relationship that we are each others cheerleader and that we affirm our spouse’s identity. We need to avow the gift of each other that God has given us. Nothing discourages us more than when someone we love demeans our intellect. Nothing breaks down a marriage quicker than when we degrade each other. We do not have to say things that aren’t true about each other, but we must confirm his/her true qualities. Positive affirmation is a MUST for a happy, positive and fulfilling marriage. There is nothing more important than to know that you are respected and honored by your spouse. Many marriages fail because we do not realize that our words have a powerful effect on each other. Unite in Christ Jesus and allow Him to be the language of love in your marriage.
The husband has a special place under God as a covering for his wife. Together a husband and wife should become in marriage more like Jesus Christ. Husband, your wife is much the better as you support her in prayer and together you form a bond that solidifies one another in Christ. A husband and wife should see in each other, one another’s faults and weaknesses and before God and stand in the gap praying and seeking God for their spouse. A husband and wife are partners united as one in Christ Jesus.
We as husbands need to find ourselves on our knees every day thanking God for our spouse, while showering her with love and affection, affirming to her that she is the object of our hearts’s desire, our wants and wishes. This is a husband’s duty to God and to his wife. We as men are made by God to guard and protect our wife. We should always speak well of her and uplift her in public as well as private, praising her as the gift of God in our lives.
In her thoughts and in her life, may your wife be able to speak the same of you, as the wife of Solomon spoke of him as she realized his love for her in Song of Solomon 7:10 I belong to my beloved and his desire is for me.
Marriage is ecstatically happy at times, excruciatingly painful at others, a mixture of good and bad in between. Even the best marriage has its periods of desperation. Marriage is the union of two flawed people who each have their own baggage that they bring into the union of marriage and together they learn to pack their bags together.
Song of Solomon 6:3 says: I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.
What she is saying is that they are friends, devoted and delighted to the care of one another. They are not just married but are close friends who delight in one another—each putting the others needs before their own.
My prayer is that God will bless every marriage; that each partner affirms the other and is a staunch supporter for his or her partner; that they might say of each other, as we read in verse 16: Everything about him/her delights me, thrills me through and through!
If we apply the words of God written in Isaiah 43:1-3, we can be assured that the hand of God will be upon our holy union – holding us, guiding us and protecting us together in marriage.
Do not be afraid, for I have ransomed you. I have called you by name; you are mine. When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you. For I am the LORD, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.
- She Brings Him Good, Not Harm, All the Days of Her Life (missybaroff.wordpress.com)
- How the Gospel Works in My Marriage (passionatechristianmarriage.wordpress.com)
- Song of Solomon 7:6 “How fair and how pleasant you are, O love, with your delights!” (calvinistview.com)