Go From Victim to Victor – How To Forgive When It Hurts So Much – Bible Inspiration

forgiveness Ephesians 4:32Forgiveness is the root of all that we are, or ever wish to be. Forgiveness is the very breath of God. It is the grace of God that is the foundation of all that we are – everything is based on forgiveness.

Without forgiveness there would be no church walls. Without forgiveness there would be no Bible. Without forgiveness there would be no communion, no Sunday School, fellowship or worship service. Understanding the power of grace and forgiveness in our life lays the foundation for a more joyful life in Christ.

Grace is the essence of all that we are in Christ, and it is the gift of God that allows us to forgive.

When we lack forgiveness toward someone who has wounded or hurt us, the damage we inflict on ourselves is many times worse than the originating offense. When we find it difficult to forgive we blame others, make excuses, justify our actions and hold malice in our hearts.

Each of us have been hurt by someone. Many times that painful hurt leaves a wound that will not seem to heal. As a result we become resentful, angry and bitter. The grace of God working in us will allow us to forgive the origin of the offense bringing us comfort and joy. These emotions will come as a result of forgiveness working inside of us.

Just as the grace of God is a gift, forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves. Letting go of our bitterness and resentment will lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt us.  We can forgive the person that hurt us without excusing the act that caused us the pain. Forgiveness brings peace and joy that will enable us to go on with life, and live it more abundantly.

When we do not forgive, we pay the price by carrying that anger and bitterness into every experience of our lives. A lack of forgiveness will so consume us, that we will not enjoy the good things in our life, causing us to ruin our relationships with others. A lack of forgiveness is poison to our soul that eats at us from the inside out.

The power of forgiveness transforms us from “victim to victor” removing the power the hurt had over our life. Forgiveness allows us to no longer be defined by how we’ve been hurt. In the process of forgiving we find happiness, emotional and spiritual healing.

As a child I loved to run across the yard, my bare feet squeezing the cool grass between my toes. Even now the memories make me smile. That is until I stepped on a sticker. I grew up in North Texas where there many, many stickers. Stickers are small burs, sharp as a needle that grow in the yard. If they are not immediately removed and allowed to spread they will invade every inch your yard and make walking barefooted very painful.

Hebrews 12:15 warns us make sure that we do not miss the grace of God by allowing weeds of bitter resentment to grow. A weed that is allowed to seed will ruin a garden in no time. God’s grace and our bitterness cannot coexist in the same heart. God’s grace will push out your bitterness and resentment, or your bitterness will push out God’s grace.

By God’s grace we have been forgiven, and by God’s grace we can become the forgiver. If we store resentment and bitterness it will poison us, crippling and destroying our life. Let the love of Jesus Christ be your antidote. Do yourself a favor, forgive and set yourself free, so that you can be happy.

Ephesians 4:32 be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

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28 replies

  1. Reblogged this on Moonlight Reflections and commented:
    A lot of truth in this one. I sure needed to read this.

  2. this is a wonderful post, Darrell … thanks for reminding us, that in keeping our hearts locked with an unforgiving spirit, we ourselves have become the prisoner.
    (…. wrote a poem about it here … http://heidiviars.com/2013/02/28/prisons-of-the-heart )

  3. Awesome graphic and message, Darrell! It is very true, if we believe in God, in his Son Jesus and are filled with the Holy Spirit…we should be the first to be proactive not reactive! This is a good lesson and one that needs to heard. God Bless you~Zoey

  4. As usual so meaningful.brings a tear to the eyes.Please pray for me.Thanks.

  5. Another truthful and wonderful blog from you Darrell. I want my world to know too that it is only God who works in us to do of His good pleasure(as victor) to forgive, as He forgives each and every one of us who do not deserve it. We need not remain victims to unforgiveness and bitterness. Praise God.

    I would like to post on Sunday 22 February 2014 on ChristianBlessings with your concurrence. Thank you for your unselfishness in sharing the good word.


  6. Reblogged this on Bob's Opinion and commented:
    Great post Darrell Creswell, and thank you for sharing it…

  7. Darrell, i love the examples that you used like the stickers and that we must not allow weeds to seed. A very good message. Thank you. Shalom to you and Gracie!

  8. This is a wonderful message! God bless you!

  9. Your post reminds me of a quote:
    “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
    — Lewis B. Smedes

  10. There was so much Truth in your message Darrell and yes without forgiveness, it is like mixing poison for those who have hurt us and drinking it ourselves.

    When we hold onto bitterness and resentment it does indeed hurt us more than our enemies but sadly I have been there (see link below) today I find it very hard to hold onto these poisonous arrows for very long but as you said it does not mean that I accept and agree with the wrong they have said or done to me, I just don’t let it continue to hurt me, also if tempted I remember how much I hurt God by my sin, I caused Jesus the horror of the Cross and broke both their hearts by doing so.


    Christian Love from both of us – Anne

  11. Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:


  1. Bitterness | Quality of Life Ministries
  2. Go From Victim to Victor – How To Forgive When It Hurts So Much – Bible Inspiration | ChristianBlessings
  3. Giving Forgiveness, Finding Empathy | The Gifting Whisperer

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